Never Forget

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Proverbs 23:19, 22Listen, my son, and be wise, and keep your heart on the right path. Listen to your father, who gave you life. (NIV 1978)

My Musing – Today marks the second anniversary of my dad’s passing, a constant in my life for 61 years, and who (along with my mother) was largely responsible for molding my beliefs and character, at least the positive ones.  Today, I simply refer you to my September 15, 2017 and February 7, 2018 musings.

My Advice – Never forget.

Happy Father’s Day

Proverbs 4:1 -5:1 – Listen, my sons, to a father’s instruction; pay attention and gain understanding. I give you sound learning, so do not forsake my teaching. When I was a boy in my father’s house, still tender, and an only child of my mother, he taught me and said, “Lay hold of my words with all your heart; keep my commands and you will live. Get wisdom, get understanding; do not forget my words or swerve from them. Do not forsake wisdom, and she will protect you; love her, and she will watch over you. Wisdom is supreme; therefore get wisdom. Though it cost all you have, get understanding. Esteem her, and she will exalt you; embrace her, and she will honor you. She will set a garland of grace on your head and present you with a crown of splendor.”

Listen, my son, accept what I say, and the years of your life will be many. I guide you in the way of wisdom and lead you along straight paths. When you walk, your steps will not be hampered; when you run, you will not stumble. Hold on to instruction, do not let it go; guard it well, for it is your life. Do not set foot on the path of the wicked or walk in the way of evil men. Avoid it, do not travel on it; turn from it and go on your way. For they cannot sleep till they do evil; they are robbed of slumber till they make someone fall. They eat the bread of wickedness and drink the wine of violence.

The path of the righteous is like the first gleam of dawn, shining ever brighter till the full light of day. But the way of the wicked is like deep darkness; they do not know what makes them stumble.  My son, pay attention to what I say; listen closely to my words. Do not let them out of your sight, keep them within your heart; for they are life to those who find them and health to a man’s whole body. Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life. Put away perversity from your mouth; keep corrupt talk far from your lips. Let your eyes look straight ahead, fix your gaze directly before you. Make level paths for your feet and take only ways that are firm. Do not swerve to the right or the left; keep your foot from evil. (NIV 1984)

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My Musings – Like Steve Young, my dad taught my brothers and me responsibility, accountability and the importance of hard work, among many other things.  I’ve tried to do the same for my son Joel.  I think it took, as I am proud of the man he’s become.  I never really had the opportunity to do this with Joshua, although He knew he was loved (just look at his happy face!).  While I say “I,” it is really we, for dads usually do not do it on their own.

I don’t know if Joel ever thought I was ignorant or found it hard to be around his old man, I don’t think so.  I know I never felt this way about my dad, and I’d love to still have him and Josh around.

I think the lesson here is to always appreciate them, cherish the time that you do have with them, and make memories.  It is over way too soon. While it is important to have a strong work ethic,  don’t spend all your time working and rushing around.  When it is over, memories will not be all that you have.  If you are or were lucky blessed enough to have a dad like mine, He will live on not only in your memories, but in your character.  And if you are or were lucky blessed enough to have sons like mine, do your best to pass along the character that you received, if not from your earthly father, then from your Heavenly Father.

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Go to the ant, you sluggard; consider its ways and be wise! It has no commander, no overseer or ruler, yet it stores its provisions in summer and gathers its food at harvest (Proverbs 6:6-8, NIV 1984).

My Advice – Be a good father, be a good son or daughter.  Learn from each other.  Cherish your time together.  Do not let your job or profession define who you are to such an extent that you spend your life working and rushing around.  Consider your ways and be wise.  Your job  is there for you to make a living (and hopefully a difference), not to make it your life.

Someone Else’s Musings

At 4 years old: My Daddy can do anything.
At 7 years old: My Dad knows a lot, a whole lot.
At 8 years old: My Father doesn’t quite know everything.
At 12 years old: Oh well, naturally Father doesn’t know it all.
At 14 years old: Father? Hopelessly old fashioned.
At 21 years old: Whoa, is that man out of date. What did you expect?
At 25 years old: He knows a little bit about it, but not much.
At 30 years old: It’s amazing how wise he got in the last few years.
At 35 years old: We need to find out what Dad thinks about it.
At 50 years old: What would Dad have thought about it?
At 60 years old: My Dad knew everything.
At 65 years old: I wish I could talk it over with Dad one more time.

-Author Unknown

 

 

Encouraging Words

Memorial Day

1 Thessalonians 4:13-18Brothers, we do not want you to be ignorant about those who fall asleep, or to grieve like the rest of men, who have no hope. We believe that Jesus died and rose again and so we believe that God will bring with Jesus those who have fallen asleep in him. According to the Lord’s own word, we tell you that we who are still alive, who are left till the coming of the Lord, will certainly not precede those who have fallen asleep. For the Lord himself will come down from heaven, with a loud command, with the voice of the archangel and with the trumpet call of God, and the dead in Christ will rise first. After that, we who are still alive and are left will be caught up together with them in the clouds to meet the Lord in the air. And so we will be with the Lord forever. Therefore encourage each other with these words. (NIV 1984)

My Musings – Memorial Day, is primarily Continue reading “Encouraging Words”

Once Upon A Valentine

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Genesis 2:24For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.  (NIV 1978)

My Musing – It’s hard to believe that this picture was taken 44 years ago as we were preparing to go to our church’s Valentines day sweetheart banquet.  We had only been dating a few months, but were on our way to falling in love.  Nearly two years later we were married and began quite a journey together that included two wonderful boys.  Today, she remains my sweetheart and is just as beautiful to me as she was in this picture.  God has blessed in so many ways.

An Ordinary Unschooled Man?

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Acts 4:13When they saw the courage of Peter and John and realized that they were unschooled, ordinary men, they were astonished and they took note that these men had been with Jesus. (NIV 1984)

My Musing – As you might recall, I wrote “A Dad’s Devotions” for my son Joel when he graduated from college.  In the forward I wrote: “My fear: that you will find that I am better at giving advice than I have been at following it. Forgive me. Perfect love drives out fear.”   I might have added as well, “or of living it.”  Today, in this “special edition” of “A Dad’s Devotions” I turn my attention to my dad (who would have turned  86 today), who did live it.

Like Peter and John in the verse above, my dad could be described as an ordinary unschooled man.  But while he may have seemed ordinary Continue reading “An Ordinary Unschooled Man?”

Remembrances of Heaven’s Very Special Child

Remembrances of Heaven’s Very Special Child

A meeting was held quite far from Earth! It’s time again for another birth.

Said the Angels to the LORD above, This Special Child will need much love.

His progress may be very slow. Accomplishments he may not show.
And he’ll require extra care from the folks he meets down there.

He may not run or laugh or play.  His thoughts may seem quite far away,
In many ways he won’t adapt, and he’ll be known as handicapped.

So let’s be careful where he’s sent, we want his life to be content.
Please LORD, find the parents who will do a special job for you.

They will not realize right away the leading role they’re asked to play.
But with this child sent from above, comes stronger faith and richer love.

And soon they’ll know the privilege given, in caring for their gift from Heaven.
Their precious charge, so meek and mild, is HEAVEN’S VERY SPECIAL CHILD.

Edna Massionilla, The Optomist- newsletter for PROUD, Parents Regional Outreach for Understanding Down’s Inc., December 1981.

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My Musing – Every child is precious to our Lord, and in a sense is Heaven’s Very Special Child.  But today, if you will indulge me, I am sharing some remembrances of our oldest son Joshua, who died twenty-five years ago today.  He was only nine years old.  Because he was born with severe physical and mental disabilities (see “Cain’t Leaves His Mark”), there would be no graduation celebrations. No major birthday milestones after his first, as he never lived to see double digits. No Continue reading “Remembrances of Heaven’s Very Special Child”

The First Joel

The First Joel – This week is special Sunday edition of my “amusings”, as it is our son Joel’s 33rd birthday, which seems hardly possible.

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Because We Say So – As a birthday greeting to Joel, I am sharing one of Eileen and my first pre-blog “A Dad’s Devotions” that we had prepared for Joel when he turned 21. Continue reading “The First Joel”