1 Corinthians 4:2 – Now it is required that those who have been given a trust must prove faithful. (NIV 1984)
My Musings – Trust is the confident reliance on the character, ability, strength, or truth of someone. Being trustworthy means that we are worthy or deserving of that trust. Finally, it is deserveed because of past actions or demonstrations of character, ability, strength or truth. Actions and demonstrations are plural, and in the case of trust the actions and demonstrations are consistent enough to prove they can be counted on. They are reliable. In other words, you expect nothing different no matter the situation or the circumstance (through “thick and thin”).
- We cannot tell people to trust us. It is the result of feeling safe (Simon Sinek – Leaders Eat Last). Feeling safe because dependability has already been proven.
- We cannot buy trust. To paraphrase an old television advertisement, “we gain trust the old-fashioned way – we earn it” (E.F. Hutton).
- We cannot sell trust. “Your words and deeds must match if you expect [people] to trust in [you] (Kevin Kruse).” We cannot sell it with words, but people will buy it when it is backed up by deeds (e.g. keeping your word).
- We cannot question trust. “Trust, but verify,” (Russian proverb quoted by President Ronald Reagan). This quote is backwards. We trust because trustworthiness has already been demonstrated. There is no trust before it has been verified (found worthy). Then, if it is trustworthy, it needs no further verification.
- Trust cannot be taken – “People follow leaders by choice. Without trust, at best you get compliance,” (Jesse Lyn Stoner, author of Full Steam Ahead). People can choose to give trust, but it cannot be taken from them against their will.
- Trust can be lost – “Trust is the hardest thing to gain and the easiest to lose” (Alka Dimri Saklani, Beyond Secrets).
My Advice – You cannot only appear to be trustworthy. You must be trustworthy. It is what you would want from others and what others want from you.