What causes fights and quarrels among you? Don’t they come from your desires that battle within you? (Jamess 4:1, NIV 1984).
My Musings – “Indulging [our] resentment toward each other [isn’t] the right path to being [our] best selves. [It] leaves us blind and powerless; it’s been compared to drinking poison and hoping the other person will die. When you take a moment to look at any situation that’s making you resentful, you’ll realize that whatever you’re holding on to is mainly causing misery – for you.” (Leading Without Authority, Keith Ferrazzi).
Resentment. The feeling of indignant displeasure or persistent ill will at something regarded as a wrong, insult, or injury. Regarded as a wrong does not mean there was an actual wrong. It’s just perceived as a wrong. And even if there is an actual wrong, we need to consider whether or not it was precipitated by something we have done wrong or was perceived as wrong by the other party. “The very fact that [there is resentment] among you means you have been completely defeated already. Why not rather be wronged?” (1 Corinthians 6:7, NIV 1984). Whether the wrong is real or perceived.
My Advice – “Therefore, if you…remember that your brother has [resentment] against you [or you them]…go and be reconciled to your brother.” (Matthew 5:23–24, NIV 1984). Extend the “right hand of fellowship.: But remember, “you cannot shake hands with a clenched fist” (Indira Gandhi).